He was not a great lover of
It did not go down at all well when Brian, four years older than
Dennis he left school,
and matters were made worse when Colin also left 2 years later,
leaving him to continue on through his schooling at Bures primary
and then Stoke By Nayland.
When he finally escaped, he
got a job as a plumbers mate with Jimmy Wilding at Little Cornard
but didn't like this very much so got a Job with David Leyland at
Bures Hall. He never moved away from farming again
After a year or so he took a job with Tom Murfit, a farmer who kept
pigs at Ropers Hall but after a while, Tom sold up and dad found
himself back at Bures Hall. It was during this period of his life
that he met my mother.
When David Leyland then also sold up, and with a wife, a son and
a daughter, he moved to North End near Little Yeldham and worked
long hours for Bob Yeldham, a farmer and contractor.
A job then came up at Fysh House Farm which he applied for and got
so the family moved back to Bures and moved into 3 Sudbury Road
in 1973 which is where daughter number 2 came on the scene in 1975.
1 Fysh House Farm Cottages became vacant so the whole family moved
in there and that is where he stayed for the remainder of his life,
until Motor Neurone Disease paid a visit.
No boy could want to be his dad more than I wanted to be mine
that still stands today.
Whilst some children had their dads take them to football, mine
let me sit in all the dust and noise of the cab-less combine when
I got home from school.
The one time we did have a kick about together, on his first kick,
my new ball hit a barbed wire fence and punctured.
I had only kicked it once!
My initial upset soon faded though as he let me sit with him on
the tool box in his tractor, for what seemed like hours, but probably
wasn't actually that long
I quickly forgot about the ball.
On my 13th birthday he taught me how to drive a tractor.
From then on, I spent every summer holiday working on the farm pretending
to be him.
In later years the farm upgraded to its first four wheeled drive.
I came home and saw it sitting there in front of the cow shed.
It took no time at all before I was out in the mud testing the four-wheel
It didn't get stuck, but it did get muddy
Dad made me stay outside scrubbing that tractor in the rain until
it seemed cleaner than it was when it was delivered.
Even the tyres had to be scrubbed clean.
One of many life lessons taught.
He taught me how to do so many things, then he let me go off and
try for myself.
I quickly learnt to do exactly as he had instructed, nothing more,
nothing less, then things would always work out ok.
Dad operated very much along the lines of 'give a man a fish and
you will feed him for a day,
show him how to catch a fish and you will feed him for a lifetime'
I never got handouts but he always made sure I had the opportunity
to earn and therefore pay for what I wanted.
He told me once "Never hurt anyone whilst they are alive and
they won't hurt you when they are dead"
He didn't mean physical pain though.
Dad was a sensitive and emotional person and the thought of upsetting
someone would hurt him far more than anything physical.
He was a kind man.
The lessons were endless right until the end.
My sister Becky and I were with dad at that end.
We were discussing dad's faith, and how much comfort it bought him.
We sat either side of him holding his hands.
He was obviously getting worse and I said' if there is someone
up there, enough is enough. Its time he went'
Becky then placed his wooden cross that he carried with him, into
Within 5 minutes he had gone.
He came into the world with
his lungs not working, he left when his lungs stopped working
his strong kind heart was the last thing to stop.
He was baptised on the 2nd September (1945) he died on 2nd September
The circle of life.
He had faith that he was going to a better place
and that was
the last lesson he taught me
.to find some kind of faith for myself.
My last words are from the man himself.
Now his instructions were not followed to the letter for practical
so please imagine this is a Saturday because he was adamant that
words were not changed.
This comes from his funeral book.
Thank you for coming.
I chose a Saturday so you did not skive off work.
When I knew I was on my way, I had a prayer and told god that I
had kept the path around the church weed free,
did he want me to do around the
gates of heaven?
Thumbs up, great I knew where I was going.
When I get there and settled in, I will make a plan.
We cannot get heavy qouits to heaven so I will make some light ones
out of small clouds
and we can then throw them to big clouds
But when Bures Dragons get here it will all be set up.
I will get Steve Davis to help me form a league.
Anyhow, before we go, I want to play Green Fields of France for
my uncles killed in the first world war.
Written by an English vicar and sung by Finbar Fury.
Thank you all and thank you Gay for all you have done.
I love you.
Could you send me an email with the cost of the wake to dennisinheaven.com
Look after beautiful Bures.